Single Parenting

If You Think Parenting Is Easier After They’re 18, You’re wrong

It is our responsibility to just love them through this transition.

3 min readFeb 14, 2023


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We watch our children grow and guide them in the right direction as best we can. But when they are no longer 18, it is not so easy.

Most of our parenting springs from the way we were parented or not parented in some instances.

I remember clearly saying to myself at random times when my parents’ answers were no, that I will never treat my children like this! Not knowing then, that they shielded me from so much mess.

And yes, some of their parenting ways are mine also.

I…the strong-willed child, what I was always called, still found ways to do those things my friends or I deemed cool. The thing about me back then, and even now, is that I never required a crowd.

I never look to my peers for validation. If I wanted to do a certain thing or go somewhere that I found interesting, I would be on my mission.

If someone joined me, great. If not, I had no problem with experiencing it, whatever it was, all alone.

They told me I would have sooo many issues with my kids.

Honestly, I had a few regular parenting issues as my daughter grew. Think about it…daughters have a mind of their own. Especially pre-teens. LOL!

Early on during my divorce, financial changes, etc. Shit hit the fan…over and over…and over.

But we hung in there. I took care of what needed to be handled as a parent with consistency and straight-up seriousness, a taking-no-shit attitude. Of course, life moved on and things gradually got better.

Both my kids are doing well and my parenting strategies seem to work. Soft, yet…. “I love you more than life but don’t play with me” rule never fails.

Who lied and said once they hit 18 I would be done?

Somebody lied consistently because there are so many 18-year-olds or teens who are almost 18 and seem to be fixated on that myth. Grown at 18.




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